Saturday, April 12, 2008

Holding On While Letting Go

While holding on to all the sweet memories that I have of my precious Emma, I am now realizing that I had quite a lot of things gathered up for her arrival home. A beautiful high chair, clothes, blankets, snuggli, so many things. They were not all acquired at once, a yard sale find here, a thrift store score there......they added up.

It appears that it may be quite a while before we are blessed with another grandchild. So, should I hang on to these things or let them go? When we purchased them I thought of the wonderful memories they would create, and now sometimes the sight of them makes me sad.

Do you hang on to these things? Or let them go? I feel like letting go of them may mean I am letting go of her. Can you hold on to the memories and let go of the material things?


Swansong said...


I am so sorry for the loss of your grand daughter. I didn't realize that she had passed so your blog today hit me hard. I just went back and found your announcement post and obviously I missed it. My thoughts are with you and your family

Chile said...

I'm sorry, too, that you lost your precious granddaughter.

If you don't want to keep the baby things, perhaps you could find a family that can't afford them. It would be a wonderful gift for them.

If you do wish to keep them, perhaps packing them away for now would be easier for you.


Petersonclan said...

Keep some of the precious things, and bless others with the "normal" and replaceable things.

Do you quilt? Knit? Crochet? Maybe you could make a blanket in memory of her? Then get rid of others?

I would keep some of the things, even in the attic. For you WILL have grandchildren someday, and then you can enjoy pulling them out.

I am so sorry for your loss.

vintagechica said...


Im with petersonclan. A memory lap quilt would be a wonderful way to hold on to the more special items and gift a needy mother with the other items.

Until then, I am sending you healing prayers and thinking of you today.

Jennifer said...

I'm so sorry too. It was so sad to read your announcement.

I've lost three to miscarriage in the last year and a half. Sometimes the baby things will hurt, other times you'll want to see them. I would recommend putting them out of sight for a while before getting rid of them. You may feel differently later.

And have faith that there will be another little baby in your future who will enjoy them. If you want to bless someone else with them, that's fine, but I wouldn't hurry into it.